I believe that everyone know how to evaluate circumstances as they are matured enough to do all the calculations. Everyone has the rights to quote, disagree, glorify or even vilify whatever they heard or read. Everyone knows how to evaluate people and relationships. When people badmouthing others, that means they can do the same thing to you, too. This can be really eerie and irky. However, what do you accomplish by getting upset? Zilch. Nothing. Not a speck of dust.
The world can be a nasty place
You know it, I know it, yeah
We don’t have to fall from grace
Put down the weapons you fight with.
– Selena Gomez, Kill ’em with Kindness
I was once a hot-tempered person whenever I heard people gossiped about me (most of them were relatives). They irked me a lot that I fell sick because I allowed them to control my mind. That was long time ago as now I feel that there is no accomplishment for getting upset.
Don’t kill people with kindness because not everyone deserve your kindness. Kill them with silence because not everyone deserve your attention. Silence is the best revenge.
Whenever I heard they (same people again) talked about me again. I just let them be with their own life because that is what they can do, and it really hard to change a habit. In other words, I don’t have to fight, no need for name calling or social media shaming. I don’t have to talk about them just to defend myself, no getting even, none of that. I just sit down and relax – look at them and the long-term consequences from the actions that they took. I just cut the ties, and move on. No point of looking back because I don’t need people who would ‘value’ you based on what they can squeeze out of my life for their own self-interest. What’s the point of giving chances for those who cannot even change their attitude? Forgiving them and then giving them another chances to hurt you?
It is much wiser to be silent, and painfully be ‘The ignorer’, and move on with your life. Focus on what you should accomplish, and spend more time with the people who value you more. Maybe you can just simply buy something for your special one this Christmas. It’s worthy that dealing with your stress. Cheers!